Expectations in marriage create a debt/debtor relationship that resembles more of a contract between two parties than a covenant between two people. The result of this is that your spouse feels like they never measure up and they are never good enough. Your marriage becomes devoid of love and joy. So what are you to do? You can’t deny your expectations—after all, they started out as God-given desires. Instead you must learn to transform your expectations back into desires. You must get to a place where you decide that your spouse doesn’t owe you anything and that you owe them everything.