This year nearly half a million couples were married. And almost a third of them will end up divorced. New law has made divorce more common - but certainly not easier. Too often the apparently detached calm of the divorce courts may be the calm of exhaustion at the end of years of fighting over property, money - and children. Too often, those getting divorced seem to be encouraged to fight for what are termed their rights; too often, solicitors draw up lines of battle instead of peace terms. Barristers are sometimes accused of earning princely fees for posing ritual questions so that the divorce shall be seen ' to be legal. Divorce costs the taxpayer 17 million in a year in legal aid. Jeremy James has been talking to those who have suffered the anguish of the prolonged battles of divorce; to a solicitor who believes although the law may be right, the administration is certainly not, and divorce should be totally removed from the courts and lawyers; and to others who believe that men '